It's not until you're lost, that you're found. You'll never find your way looking at the ground. Don't focus too much on the Who, the How or Where. Just enjoy the view, learn something new & have a blast gettin' there. -a.dev
I believe that beauty comes in all shapes, sizes and colors. And so do insecurities. If you’re unhappy with your physical appearance, I hate to break it to you but your problems aren’t unique. I’m sorry. So often, what I really want to say when I hear people yapping about how fat or ugly they are, is “You don’t deserve a better body. But your body deserves a better you.”
What I mean is, you’re really all you’ve got. How can you be so degrading to yourself? But let me guess… You want someone who’s gonna love you unconditionally just the way you are, right?
If there are things you want to change about your physical appearance I think that’s your choice & you should work on being the you that you want to be. I’m all for being better and self progress GO YOU! But I don’t think that means you shouldn’t appreciate yourself for the way you are now. Learn to love yourself at all stages of your physical life. Because you know what? You could lose 30 lbs tomorrow & love it and that’s cool. Or you could gain 60. And I think it’s sad that just because your body changes your whole opinion of yourself changes too. Because as sure as your born, your body is going to change, my friend.
If you feel fat, so what? Go get your fat as in a sexy outfit and do the damn thing. What’s the problem? I recently met an African American woman my own age (late twenties) who was albino. Her skin was white and pink everywhere. Her hair was curly and golden. I can only imagine the kind of insecurities that came along with that when she was growing up. But she was wearing a sexy little pale pink dress and pale pink heels & she looked like a got damn chameleon & she was one of the coolest and chicest people I’ve ever seen. She owned everything about her and just radiated confidence so I’m not sorry if you want to curl up in a ball on a Saturday night because you’ve gained 20 lbs. I’m not sorry at all. There will always be someone smaller than you, someone bigger than you and someone sexier than you. Get over it & be beautiful.